Dating Hide and Seek

Do men want to chase or be chased?

Dating in today’s world is like being a rat in a maze trying to move from place to place on a path that finally gets to the cheese. There are wrong turns and dead ends everywhere. There are times you think you are on the right path only to realize you’ve been there before and it was the wrong place the first time. In days of old the common school of thought on dating was boy meets girl. Boy asks girl out. Boy and girl live happily ever after. However, times have changed. Women are just as independent and capable as their male counterparts. I’ve read books that say even in today’s dating environment that men still want to do the asking out. They like the chase and the hunt just like their caveman forefathers. Yet, sometimes we get into relationships and you never hear from the guy unless you call him. I asked one of my guy friends recently what is best. Should you have the guy chase the girl or should the girl chase the guy? His answer was it depends on the relationship. It’s a grey area. He did add a line that he likes girls to call unless they get too obsessive or psycho. So, where do you draw the line? What’s too much? I have friends who get into relationships and become obsessed with the man they are dating. They call and keep tabs on him all the time. They are always thinking about the guy. Every spare moment is taken up with the guy. It’s been noted many times that men like their space and that women have the tendency to smother them in relationships. The thing with us silly girls is that if we like a guy by the end of the first date we are already picking out china patterns and his and her towels. Sometimes I hear that guys are just shy and would prefer to have a girl pursue them and ask them out. How can you tell though? Then once you get into a relationship the same questions goes, who makes the moves? Is there a common ground on this? Can you both actively chase each other at the same time? My friend is right. There are so many grey areas in dating. There aren’t tried and true formulas that work. It’s more of a roller coaster full of ups and downs and twists and turns. Yet, are there signs to tell what to do? If we really paid attention would we see clues before us that helped us decipher the dating game? So, when it comes to dating when should you hide and when should you seek?