Heal

Heal-to make sound or whole. To restore to health. Mend. To patch up. To return to a sound state.


Recently I read in a book the idea that we don't give ourselves time to heal. From being physically sick to emotionally broken we don't take the time to really go through the process. We want to rush the time along so we can get back to normal. Sometimes we try to deny we even feel bad or we do our best to just treat the symptoms. Yet, if we try to short cut the steps can we really return to a sound state? Could our fast track to healing be even more damaging to us physically and emotionally? How long does it take to get over the common cold? It varies from person to person. How long does it take to recover from a broken heart? Same answer. It depends on the person. There are many stages we have to get through emotionally after we are hurt. Shock. Anger. Grief. Then finally one day comes acceptance. The thing is with our drive thru society we expect people to just suck it up and move on. I believe we put the same pressure on ourselves. We want to pull it together quickly so everyone thinks we are ok and everything seems fine. Emotional pain is not cured in three days and then you move on like the common cold. We need time to process things that have happened and time to sort out our feelings. We need to take the time to feel. It's been said that after a death or divorce it takes a minimum of two years to get over it. Yet, do we really get over it? Maybe we just get through it or on the other side of it. Will we ever be comfortable with hurt and pain? Will we let ourselves go through the journey? Will we give ourselves time to heal?


Breathe. Cry. Take time. Be angry. Laugh. Buy yourself flowers. Take naps. Eat a snack. Grieve. Accept. Heal.